In my yoga teacher training, I recently learned about the three A’s of the Alignment-based system of yoga I am learning. Here’s my take on how these three A’s (Attitude, Alignment, and Action) can be brought into our lives. Attitude: This “A” is equivalent to the Spirit-level in Chinese Medicine. What is the song of my heart, what is my deepest longing for this one precious life, and how am I expressing that song by how I shine bright in this lifetime? Alignment: This “A” equ
For several years now, I’ve been walking by a store near my house called The Nesting House, a children’s consignment store that also has some thoughtfully-selected new items as well. I recently had a friend who is pregnant come visit me, so I finally had an excuse to stop in and explore. The West Philly location of The Nesting House (they also have locations in South Philly, Mt. Airy, and Collingswood, NJ, or you can order many of their inventory online!) is a true delight. I
I awoke about a week ago (Tuesday May 22nd, 2018 to be exact) having had a beautiful dream about visiting a river in Northern California. I had taken a train (some kind of public transit that also ran through San Francisco) to its final stop, gotten out, and found myself surrounded by trees and by other people who had come to this place to restore themselves in nature. The trees were so damp and so green. Everyone was happy. I found a shallow river (more like a creek) with a
“In addition to spending a lot of time conversing with my brain cells, I’m having a big love-fest with the fifty trillion molecular geniuses making up my body. I am so grateful that they are alive and working together in perfect harmony that I implicitly trust them to bring me health. The first thing every morning and the last thing every night, I faithfully hug my pillow, wrap one hand in the other, and consciously thank my cells for another great day. I care enough to say i
“I’m this uncomfortable person, so I had to make these comfortable clothes.” ~Eileen Fisher, from her interview on the NPR Podcast “How I Built This” I’ve really been loving listening to these hour-long interviews with entrepreneurs about how and why they built their businesses. (My other favorite stories from this series are the stories of Patagonia and Edible Arrangements). I love this interview with Eileen Fisher not only because I love her clothes (though I don’t actually
A friend of mine recently introduced me to a concept that she calls “Beaver-Retriever.” This special animal hybrid works really hard (Beaver), and then hopes for a pat on the head (Retriever). So many of us suffer from Beaver-Retriever syndrome. We think that hard work will earn us a special acknowledgment, outcome, or result. And sometimes it does! Thus further enhancing the wiring of Beaver-Retriever into our neural network (our patterned ways of being). But more often than
My favorite favorite lunch place (Picnic, on the Walnut Street Bridge) recently closed! I was so saddened by this loss. I was actually even sadder than I expected to be when I went there recently to get my last haul of local, seasonal, and hand-prepared goodness! As you can see, I splurged big time! That foil-wrapped indulgence is actually a buttermilk biscuit with (more) butter and local strawberry jam. The reason I loved Picnic so much was that everything was made by hand a
My last blog post was all about self-care. Self-care is one of my favorite topics.
Self-care does NOT have to mean you run for an hour (or even for thirty minutes or even at all). I work with people who haven't run in years who reconnect with the sheer triumph of even getting their sneakers on and running around the block huffing and puffing.
Stepping up and taking care of yourself is really what counts the most!
Seriously. Self-care can be simple. And the simple, lit
Spring has sprung! This is the season that so many of us wait for, with a sense of relief washing over us, offering us renewal after the dark cold days of wintertime have been (temporarily at least) put to bed. I’d like to invite you, during this season of rapid growth, to reflect for a few minutes on what’s new in your life. Maybe you have a new relationship to your body (one of my clients was working with anchoring in their breath so that they could catch her anxiety before
"Am I worthy of support?" Yes! Yes yes yes DEFINITELY YES you are without a doubt worthy of support! But so many of us struggle with not feeling worthy or with feeling like we are “too much.” Several people I’ve been working with lately have apologized to me for “being a mess” or they’ve expressed guilt for feeling like they’ve given me “too much” to help them with. I’ve been there before. Feeling like too much. Feeling like I’m not worthy of support. Feeling embarrassed abou
I recently went bowling for the first time in at least 10 or 15 years at a holiday party for the therapy practice I’m affiliated with (more info here). I asked someone if I could jump into their “team” and bowl with them, but I was nervous, and I also tried to create safety for myself by saying, “I’m really terrible at bowling.” Do you ever do that? Try to anticipate total and utter failure and give yourself an out? The problem with this approach is that it’s not really that
We tend to think of letting go as a big dramatic process, and sometimes it is. Letting go can mean letting go of a job, a relationship, or a story of blame or victimization that has been fueling your rage for years on end! But, often, letting go is a process less fit for the stage, and it looks like a series of micro-choices. It really is the little things that contribute so powerfully to our health. I emphasize these day-in-day-out choices with my patients. We can let go of
I was chopping green beans the other day when I suddenly remembered KITCHEN SHEARS! Growing up, my mom never had scissors/kitchen shears in the kitchen, but my boyfriend Hanbit regularly cuts our food prep time in half by taking kitchen shears to almost everything! They’re great for chopping up bok choy or kale or big late-summer salad greens. I love watching Hanbit go at it and shear everything up with wild artistic abandon that produces variant textures and shapes. And, yes
“Generally, when we look at an object, we do not allow ourselves to see it properly. Automatically we see our version of the object instead of actually seeing that object as it is. Then we are quite satisfied, because we have manufactured our own version of the thing within ourselves. Then we comment on it, we judge, we take or reject; but there is no real communication going on at all.” ~Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche, Buddhist teacher, from his book Cutting Through Spiritual Mate
Flowers always help my heart feel connected to love. Whether I’m happy, or sad, or depleted, or joyful, I often turn to flowers to meet my needs for beauty and comfort and for that feeling of being “plugged-in” and part of the world. I think it’s because flowers spring forth from the humility of the earth and represent creativity and perseverance to me. Plants never question if they should grow or not. They just keep reaching towards the light. As we head into summer, the sea
Many of the people I work with in my practice self-identify as “ruminators” or “anxious,” and many people come to me to get help working with rising levels of anxiety, worry, and fatigue. One of the ways I work with this in my own life, and in the lives of my clients, is by teaching people to lean-in to how they feel, and by teaching them how authenticity can function as a solution to anxiety. A client was recently expressing fear, anxiety, and worry about her default reacti
We're starting to teeter from Spring (the time of vision and planning in Chinese Medicine) to Summer (the time of relationships and the heart). One beautiful way to honor someone you love is to really listen in without judgment and honor their vision. As a professional helper, I hold myself to a high standard (as best I can) around really listening to my clients, figuring out where their resistance is, what they're wanting, and where they're getting stuck, so that I can help
Today I want to talk to you about a simple tool I often suggest to people who feel overwhelmed by the ebbs and flows of illness, depression, or anxiety. It's also helpful for anyone who simply feels swept along by sudden chaos in their life and out of touch with a "big picture" view of how they're feeling in their lives. This tool only requires about 2 minutes of your day and you don't have to do it forever. It is most helpful in times where you have flare-ups of symptoms or
If you feel stuck in pain or bogged down by life, or just generally fragmented or disconnected, practices that help you take a pause and gain some perspective may be incredibly helpful for you. Examples of these practices include: prayer, meditation, and acupuncture. Acupuncture rebalances your energy and gives you space to really connect to yourself and to how you feel. A gratitude journal is also incredibly useful, though I find that there are a few specific tips, which I w
When my boyfriend Hanbit arrived in Philadelphia a couple of years ago, he owned no socks. That’s right. The man owned ZERO pairs of socks. In his defense, Hanbit moved here from Florida, so I guess the no-socks, flip-flop thing kind of made sense. But, in Philly, not having socks does not really work. Hanbit arrived in April, so it was getting warmer day by day. But when August came, I started having the “socks talk.” Knowing that Hanbit was resistant to all footwear, I gues